Hi, Andrew. Thanks for your response. Speaking for myself, that isn’t my concern. My noted concern is due to the fact that Jehovah’s witnesses are not Christians, and my question had to do with wondering if they were being seen as such–as simply another denomination–which they are not, and that led to my question about the understanding of Christianity. This isn’t the same situation as a baptist marrying a pentecostal (two Christian denominations that hold to the true gospel and the true Jesus) marrying. This is something different.
First, respectfully, what two must agree and rest on is not merely the same Bible (whatever that bible may be) but the same gospel. Those are two–while related–very, very different things (the Jehovah’s Witnesses have a different bible). It is important to not simply ascribe to whatever is labeled as a bible without examining the truth claims that proceed from or are concluded from it. Remember? Ideas have consequences. Not all that is written is truth. Any reasoning given here has to agree with the Bible, and in the Bible, Paul (whose Bible was the Old Testament) and he does tell his young converts to simply agree on the Bible, but is very clear that what should be rested upon and agreed upon is the one true gospel message:
“I marvel that you are turning away so soon from Him who called you in the grace of Christ, to a different gospel, which is not another; but there are some who trouble you and want to pervert the gospel of Christ. But even if we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel to you than what we have preached to you, let him be accursed. As we have said before, so now I say again, if anyone preaches any other gospel to you than what you have received, let him be accursed” (Galatians 1:6-9, NKJV).
2 Corinthians 11:1-4 is also a witness to this.
Here is some information that I think will be helpful: https://www.gotquestions.org/Jehovahs-Witnesses.html
@tolu, first I am so very sorry I took so long getting back, and I hope you can forgive me. I asked you questions and was not able to follow up right away. I know you have deep feelings for this person, and so I want to step gently here so as not to hurt what is probably an already concerned, vulnerable heart in this matter. My biggest concern is to give what help I can to help you navigate, which doesn’t involve giving you a hard and fast response, because I cannot give that to you. What I can give, which I think is important, is Scriptural counsel. First, our priority has to be Christ. The problem with saying that you and your beloved are simply two different people who don’t agree on Christian concepts is that I feel it suggests that someone who adheres to JW’s beliefs believes the gospel and simply disagrees on peripheral issues. In love, I have to state that is not the case. She has embraced another truth besides the gospel, and to help put that in perspective, we need to go back to Genesis. Adam listened to Eve when she embraced another truth other than that given by God (after they were already married, of course), and all of creation and humanity was cursed because he made his wife a priority over God. While I do not think that if you were to marry a Jehovah’s Witness that you would not be able to be Pentecostal, when it comes to such a marriage, I don’t think that is really the issue and from reading your response, your question seems to be the surface of some deeper issues for you (Please correct me if I’m understanding incorrectly). Like with Adam and Eve, Solomon married wives of other religions, and his interests were split between his wives and God, and he turned his back on God because of his wives’ different religions. He put his priority on his wife. It would be difficult not to in a bond that joins us to someone in every way! That being said…I think that these things from Scripture speak counsel to your situation, and I think that is all I can say in regard to your decision.
I do think it is important to say that if you were to decide that you feel this decision to enter into a marriage with this person is wrong at this time, that doesn’t mean the relationship has to end necessarily. If she is willing to accept a postponement of the marriage, should you feel that is necessary, my counsel (for what it’s worth) beyond Scripture would then be, ask her questions about the “truth” that she’s found in order to get a better grasp on how she herself understands it. Then ask yourself questions about how you understand Christianity–how well Christianity makes sense of our world, of our existence and compare it to how well hers does (to yourself, not necessarily to her at this point, as comparing right away might look to her like an attack). You went to the RZIM academy, so go back to the origins, meaning, morality, and destination. Start with those and see if you can come up with some open-ended questions for her in regard to how her beliefs explain those. If you need help with that, you can always come here and ask questions :). Even if you would decide to go ahead with the marriage, this is something I would recommend.
Again, I am so, so very sorry for taking so long to get back, and I hope this helps you. God bless you and keep you as you work to navigate this situation.