@RuviJ Hopefully I am answering your question. Let me know if not - the question I am hearing is - “Can I trust my heart when evangelizing?” Here are a few thoughts that I hope are helpful. The Lord bless you as you reach out to your friends.
Jesus Gives Us a New Heart
In Christ, we have a new heart. And when we walk in the fullness of the Spirit, we can walk in love and truth just as Jesus did - He empowers us to live our life in a whole new way. Our new heart is just that - it’s new! By the power of God’s Spirit, we can walk in humility and joy and peace as we share Jesus.
Behold, the days come, saith the Lord, that I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel, and with the house of Judah:
Not according to the covenant that I made with their fathers in the day that I took them by the hand to bring them out of the land of Egypt; which my covenant they brake, although I was an husband unto them, saith the Lord:
But this shall be the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel; After those days, saith the Lord, I will put my law in their inward parts, and write it in their hearts; and will be their God, and they shall be my people.
And they shall teach no more every man his neighbor, and every man his brother, saying, Know the Lord: for they shall all know me, from the least of them unto the greatest of them, saith the Lord: for I will forgive their iniquity, and I will remember their sin no more.
We Should Reflect on Our Motives
When evangelizing with friends where we know their history, perhaps we should ask ourselves a few questions about our motivies:
- Am I doing this out of love or in a competitive spirit?
- Am I being fair to my friend’s view of the world? Am I trying my best to understand them?
- Am I praying for my friend that God may open their heart?
Share Christ with Gentleness and Respect
As it says in Peter, we are to share the truth in gentleness and respect. This article from Biola discusses the importance of humility in our evangelism. I think humility is key to communicating the truth in word and deed.
I Peter 3:15-16 - But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander.
“So for someone to come to see God as good, they need an experience of goodness associated with God. Often the primary (in some cases the only) tangible experience people have with Christianity is contact with Christians. If their experience with Christians is bad, it becomes very difficult for them to see the Christian story—and God himself—as good. This is why moral objections to Christianity, warranted or not, can be so devastating. On the other hand, when Christians exhibit goodness, it points to God’s worth—as Jesus affirmed in the Sermon on the Mount: “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” (Matthew 5:16)”