I hope this is an appropriate category to post my question in - am fairly new to this so I will gladly accept advice and direction
My neighbour is an unbeliever. She is dying of cancer and is in the last stages. For years she has been quite an angry and bitter person, is difficult to get close to and has few friends - I think there must be much hurt and pain to have caused her to be this way.
I am so sad and so sorry for her and desperately want to offer her the comfort and the hope that we have in Jesus. Some months back I offered to pray with her and asked her if she believed there was more to our life than this earthly existence and if she had any faith - to which she stabbed her finger at the sky and disgustedly asked, “What, in HIM?”. When I said yes, she shook her head and walked away muttering. Her partner is atheist. And in fact most of the people in the community here are also atheist so there is little conversation about God and mostly I have heard people say “what a load of rubbish” it all is.
I have been able to have a few “deep and meaningful” conversations with her mother who is more open to talking about God and life after death but I would love to know how to crack Tina’s hard exterior. Or if I should even try at this stage? How can I sit by her death bed without saying something? What is the best way to approach it? I want to be respectful and understanding of who she is and what she believes - I don’t want to upset her or make her angry - but at the same time I am compelled to try and save her soul.
I really struggle with a deep sense of loss and heartbreak with such determined resistance to the things of God and the possibilities of a glorious eternal life with Him.
My mother-in-law passed away a few months ago - she was an atheist too. Over the years I had had several conversations with her about God and she was one who would always say “what a load of rubbish”. When she was dying, I went to her in her unconscious and unresponsive state and said that although I knew she did not believe in God etc I wanted to assure her that God still loved and cared about her and I wanted to read her Psalm 139. I began to read, and from an unconscious and unresponsive state, she slowly turned her head towards me, forced her eyes open slowly, and frowned at me! She then turned her head to the other side and frowned at her nurse too! The nurse and I shared a smile and loved on my mother-in-law anyway. But it was quite a thing to see. Resisting God to the end.
Would love to hear some of your thoughts…