Hi @KMac ,
I really appreciate your response. It’s quite a complicated situation. I’m going to try and keep it as simple as possible. I am a landlord by inheritance, and I am in the purpose of selling the property, but I had to fix a lot of things over the years in order to get it up to standard to sell. The area of the property is a poor area, and the tenants I’ve had to deal with have been… challenging. After having bad experience on bad experience with tenants, I took this guy, let’s call him Frank, in. He was looking for residence, I was looking for some peace, and working towards improving the property. I said he could work on the flat in exchange for rent. After seeing that the progress of work was slow, I started suggested solutions. Like him finding a proper job, being skillful as he is, and paying full rent, then I could use this money to work towards the improvements, and he can oversee and help. Or him paying partial rent while still working on the place. This he took very personally. Claiming his work is worth way more than the rent.
Long story short after a lot of arguments I asked him to give me a quotation of all the work he has done to date (22 months of residence). He quoted R113 665, which I knew was a ridiculous amount. I went and gotten a quotation from a professional contractor, which amounted to R24 465. I went to him, gave him the quote and a week to think about it. I said I didn’t want any money from him. I thanked him and offered him R70 400 for all the work he has done (which is 22 months of rent @3200 pm), and gave him notice. He replied by saying I owe him R43 265, and I’m stealing from him, threatening me that he will come and collect this money one way or another, and then blocking all communication, even ignoring me when I speak to him.
So answering your questions. I don’t know what I stand to lose, I don’t know if he will go through with his threat or how he will do it. But I have spent countless conversations with this man before this conflict. I’ve tried getting him on the right path, and if I go to the authorities, he will get into trouble for more than just our conflict. We might lose the progress I made with him to come back to God if I do that. In our conflict, I’ve challenged him every time, and I don’t think it’s a sin to challenge false reasoning. I’m ready for the fight. My problem is I’m TOO ready. Dealing with my anger is a problem and suppressing it causes anxiety for me.
I’ve been encouraged by Hebrews 5:
7 In the days of his flesh, Jesus offered up prayers and supplications, with loud cries and tears, to him who was able to save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverence. 8 Although he was a son, he learned obedience through what he suffered. 9 And being made perfect, he became the source of eternal salvation to all who obey him.
and Hebrews 12:
3 Consider him who endured from sinners such hostility against himself, so that you may not grow weary or fainthearted. 4 In your struggle against sin you have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood. 5 And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons?
7 It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? 8 If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. 9 Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? 10 For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. 11 For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
12 Therefore lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees, 13 and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint but rather be healed. 14 Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord.
I am trying to understand what this discipline is that I need to learn. As far as I can tell, it is the ability to endure. Sanctification isn’t easy, I guess.