That’s a great question with which to wrestle, so thanks for bringing it up. I agree with a number of things that have already been said. Namely,
- That it’s an issue of conscience.
- That there’s a difference between between being forced to use the pronouns in a employment setting, being forced to use the pronouns in a volunteer setting, and using them out of choice.
- That relationships need to be forged in love and humility.
I hear you when you say that you feel a bit stuck in the current situation. I would say that if your conscience is bound to recognise biological sex in spite of another’s desire to be recognised otherwise, then I would not volunteer at that place. As an organisation, they have the legal right to set policies for volunteers, and, as a volunteer, you have the choice to abide by those policies (enabling you to volunteer there) or to not abide by them (meaning, you don’t volunteer there). To agree to the polices and then to subvert them would be, in my opinion, unhelpful for everyone involved.
However, I recognise that I don’t have a number of specifics on your situation, like…
- what the mission of the organisation is
- who runs the organisation (government, non-profit, religiously-affliated charity, etc.)
- if you would actually run into that issue as a volunteer
With those details, I would then ask you, ‘Is this a hill you want to die on?’ I, for one, use preferred pronouns when I’m referring to and speaking with my transgender friends, and, in most situations, it’s not a hill I’m willing to ‘die on’.
PS, I thought the Russell Moore response was solid. Thanks for posting that!