@jtidwell If I am misunderstanding the question please correct me. My understanding is that you have one man who has been remarried after a divorce for 14 years and another man who is living an active homosexual lifestyle. The main question I am hearing is - isn’t it true that the divorcee is also living in sin?
If I have the question correct, I think this question is related to the question of whether or not the remarried man should divorce again and remarry the original spouse. In other words, is the second marriage valid or does it need to be broken up to restore the first. The below article should be helpful. It makes the point that even though the original act of getting a divorce and remarrying may be wrong (assuming no sexual immorality or abuse), the second marriage also represents a binding covenant.
What are your guys’ thoughts on this perspective? Do you feel it is valid or invalid? How come?
Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the Lord (Deuteronomy 24:4).
“The prohibition of a wife returning to her first husband even after her second husband dies (because it is an abomination) suggests very strongly that today no second marriage should be broken up in order to restore a first one” (John Piper).
“Clearly, the second marriage—whether biblically justified or not—becomes as binding as the original marriage was supposed to be. A return to the original spouse is strictly forbidden.”
“Because marriage entails a covenant that God deems holy, any remarriage (even remarriage after an unbiblical divorce) cannot be—and should not be—forsaken as we would forsake virtually any other sin. But people who have entered into such a relationship do need to seek God’s forgiveness with sincere repentance.”