How can Christians find the necessary boldness to start spiritual conversations?

Hi Bala,

How can Christians find the necessary boldness to start spiritual conversations?

What wisdom do you have for us in terms of being bold about Jesus in a mature way - vs an annoying and problematic way?


Hi Carson,

Thank you for raising this question because I think it is important that in our ‘spiritual conversations’ we ought to do so in a mature and respectful manner (1 Pet. 3:15) rather than in an arrogant tone or a problematic way. The starting point for us as followers of Christ is that we ought to always remind ourselves (in light of the Scriptures) that our salvation “is the gift of God, not by works, so that no-one can boast” (Eph. 2:8b-9). Hence, our ‘boldness’ or our confidence should be deeply rooted in Christ. To deviate from this pattern is not only to go astray from God’s way but to embrace the pattern of the world which denies God, hence paves the way for Unchristian behaviour.

Having said that let me make a few suggestions on how to be ‘bold about Jesus in a mature way’ so that our conduct would inturn help us spark spiritual conversations.

First of all, let us remember that God’s calling on our lives is not merely to PROCLAIM the truth about Jesus but also to WALK in a way appropriate to our position as His representatives. The apostle Paul says in Phil. 1:27, “Whatever happens, CONDUCT yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ.” These two (pillars of God’s calling upon our lives) ought to be held together and also lived out in our lives. Once this becomes a pattern of our lives then I am convinced that this would paved the way for evangelism as a life-style!

Secondly, one of the most effective way I have found in initiating conversations is asking questions. Well, questions can range from things concerning their beliefs in God or the lack of it, their story etc. Everyone likes to talk… :slight_smile: or in other words everyone has a story to share. It is only in doing so that you will earn the right to be heard. When its your turn then limit yourself to your own experience and not others. We need to learn to share our testimonies in less than two minutes otherwise we are unlikely to witness effectively.

Thirdly, we should be sensitive meaning we should know when to stop. Say too much and you will lose their interest, and perhaps risk making them hostile and unreceptive. Listen for the Holy Spirit saying, “Time to change the subject”.

Fourth, we should cultivate the habit of using ordinary language. Avoid using jargons that we might be using within our communities or Churches because friends from outside the church may find the jargon meaningless and off-putting. Why let our language be a barrier to faith?

Fifth, we should provide the space for truth to speak for itself. E. Stanley Jones, a missionary to India and a very good friend to Mahatma Gandhi once recommended that we invite our friends from other faiths to share what their beliefs had done for them. Very often, we assume we understand and consequently never ask the questions. Listening sincerely to their response, help us to build a genuine relationship. An open ended search for the truth should eventually lead people to be open to the revealed truth of the Bible.

Please feel free to get back just incase there is any need for clarification.

Thank you.