Thanks for sharing this, Robert! I remember several years ago my wife and me hitting burnout from the strain of always saying “yes” to all asks while having a new, and growing, family. It got so bad that my wife needed to disconnect from service/leadership for a few years before she could reengage. She still gets anxious when the asks start to come.
The Pareto Rule (The 80/20 Rule) seems to find its way into the church - 20% do 80%. Maybe it’s even more like 5% do 95%! To many, the Christian life is church attendance, which is a spectator sport for them - watching a performance instead of participating in a caring, worship community. I have often wondered, if it is a fault of our church leadership style. I have asked our pastors why they don’t ask specific people to help them with specific things in order to develop a participatory congregation. But, it seems abnormal for them to engage specific parishioners in this manner.
I was poleaxed when I read an article in which the writer stated, “The pace of doing God’s work is destroying God’s work in me”. Since I came across that, I try to consider, if I am too busy to keep the main thing the main thing. The main thing is being in communion with the Godhead. When I am properly aligned to God, then the zoe and agape of God will be in me and available through me to others. If not, then I’m trying to make do with my own ability - not a good thing!
I think, if the main thing isn’t the main thing anymore, then it is time to cut back or take a sabbatical and then reengage when it is restored to proper balance.
Hope you have a good week!