My name is John Hunter I am from NYC… I have possibly a timely question because I am not really the professional at dealing with those in Bereavement. In particular, I have a co-worker names Yolanda who just lost her boyfriend a combination of Stroke and possibly CoVid-19 from staying in a nursing home. I knew about the stroke because when it happened she took off time to help him and she missed a lot of hours at work.
During the period of time at my job before the Quarantine became official, I had been inviting her to come to my church for a prayer meeting located in Downtown Brooklyn. I believe She had an encounter with God during this prayer meeting. I say this because, she received a prayer request card that mirrored her exact prayers for her, at the time, ill boyfriend. She became ecstatic and she immediately made me aware of this. After the prayer meeting she told me that she was depressed and she started to cry. Once she starts to cry I found one of the sisters in the church for her to talk to because I was just trying to play it safe and also it was During the time of the CoVid problem.
I prayed for her and called her during the quarantine. I would give her different verses and talk to her about God and telll her of God’s love. She said she didn’t really didn’t understand. I tried to listen and answer gently. I know she isn’t a Christian so I would listen and if she asked me questions about God i would do my best to give an answer to the best of my knowledge. I also share the Gospel with her. She didn’t necessarily respond but she said she was embarrassed when I told her that she could have a relationship with God and I tried to give her the easiest way to God which is in Romans 10:9 I believe. There are other details I have left out, but these details can tell you about the situation. One detail I need to include is that she went to the funeral home to see his body for the first time last night. A detail about her behavior is that She sleeps a lot to try and bypass the pain.
I have tried to give her space and time. I don’t know what to do professionally. Is there some type of action that I am missing out ? What should I know about bereavement? Are there books or other sources. I believe she is hurting to much to actually read during this time.
What are your thoughts and advice?