It seems that this is an uncomfortable topic for the church. It is rare for me to find or hear a Christian discuss this topic. It seems to be a taboo topic, with many closing their eyes, and making merry, while others are forced into honestly by the sheer gravity of their circumstance.
I agree with Lee Strobel in the video that was linked in this post. I have heard every single response from the church on being angry at God, that he mentioned, in the video. It makes things very difficult for those who deal with severe trauma, and emotional and mental illness, to find community to travel along the road of recovery with, and guidance, solace and help with regards to dealing with, processing and healing their anger, towards God. It’s a taboo subject, and another cause of isolation and anger among many, who seek help from the church.
I didn’t grow up in the church, so, when I got around church people, I definitely didn’t get the notion that it was ever, ever ok to be angry with God, or allude to it. It would seem that recovery dealing with anger towards God may continue to be a lonely road for many in and outside of the church, as long as the church continues in this way.
I saw a video on YouTube, yesterday, where a Christian was trying to evangelize to a woman who worshipped her ancestors. She said that she was brought up in the church, and and not to question things. She also confessed that she had been molested as a little girl. She asked where God was for her, at that time. She was clearly angry at God, and walked away due to the lack of answers for her personal pain. The evangelical tried to answer her pain with theology, and I could tell that it wasn’t reaching her, because that isn’t the reason she decided to walk away from God and join this new spirituality. It was her deep pain, and questions and anger at God that needed to be spoken to. He later on tried to apologize for what she went through, but, he failed to see that this person required a different kind of response. This woman believes that she now has a better life, and has healed since she walked away from God. I fear that as long as the church continues to miss the mark, and stifle this reality of people being angry at God, there will be more people like this woman who will find “healing” elsewhere, and won’t find God or ever be close with Him, if they are a Christian. The church doesn’t know how to answer/deal with mental/emotional illness and deep traumatic wounds in people.