I have a sister-in-law who just reached 20. Although she is attending church through the efforts of my wife, I can see that her attitude with life is not changing. Recently I tried to have a conversation with her but it did not turn well. She like most of the new generation today, does not want anyone to tell her what she should or should not do. She believes that she knows what is right by following her heart and her heart only. She does not want people to treat her like a kid that need to be taught.
I started the conversation by telling her although I am already 40, I still make stupid mistakes no matter how well I tried to planned for my own. And if I made a decision that is base on my heart desire that is against what God has told me, the result many times is a bad one. And only through God’s mercy that I will be able to get out from the mess after I repented. Therefore I encouraged her to follow God’s way rather than her own way, and tried to explain to her that no one is perfect and what the world has been telling her (about happiness, love, sex etc) are not the truth when we look at God’s way.
Then the conversation spiral down by having her pointing to me that I am not in the position to tell her what to do because I also has done something not right. And I should not take her as a kid as she knows what she is doing and she will do the right things as she think fits.
That’s the end of the conversation. Because obviously she (or the new generation in general) does not want to seek any advice from anyone. Even she knows about God, but she think that going to church and follow God’s way is not making her happy, therefore she should not do it. And during the conversation she will tend to exaggerated what I have said and make it sound very unreasonable (Straw Man), such as if you say those who trust in God do not worry, then why you worry me. Or if God has a plan for everyone, then what I am doing now is also part of His plan, so you there is nothing you should change me.
What can the old generation guy like me help those new generation? I got another friend who also asking me to help talking to her daughter at 19, now I have no confidence to try talking to them anymore. Logic does not help, listening does not help. Any help please?