@jobobear I think one point I would emphasize - and may be helpful for you as you have this discussion - is that God will not contradict what He has revealed of Himself in the Scriptures because the Scriptures are an accurate self-revelation of God and an accurate record of God’s work in human history. God will also never tell us to do something that He has forbidden in Scripture. In that sense, the Bible is our final authority because it is how God has chosen to reveal Himself to us - through the written Word. At the same time we recognize that we worship a living God and that Jesus is in fact the ultimate self-revelation of God - God in the flesh. Therefore, while the Bible is authoritative, God is Himself - living, active, powerful - and we do not serve the Bible but rather the God of the Bible.
I think the reason you encountered resistance is because people were worried that you were questioning whether or not the Bible is an accurate self-revelation of God - if it is, then God Himself would never contradict it. Many founders of cults and false religions have claimed to have direct revelations from God that contradict Scripture and I suspect that was their concern. So you may just be a bit more careful with your wording.
Is that helpful? Did I understand your question accurately? Christ grant you wisdom
Here are a few thoughts I find helpful:
- life is not found in the Bible, but in Christ Himself
- Jesus is the fullest revelation of God we have and the New Testament is the authoritative source for what He taught and said
- Jesus and the apostles exhort us to remember the words of the prophets and the law - for they were the work of the Holy Spirit
John 5:39-40 - You study the Scriptures diligently because you think that in them you have eternal life. These are the very Scriptures that testify about me, yet you refuse to come to me to have life.
2 Peter 1:16-21 - For we did not follow cleverly devised stories when we told you about the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ in power, but we were eyewitnesses of his majesty. 17 He received honor and glory from God the Father when the voice came to him from the Majestic Glory, saying, “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.” 18 We ourselves heard this voice that came from heaven when we were with him on the sacred mountain.
19 We also have the prophetic message as something completely reliable, and you will do well to pay attention to it, as to a light shining in a dark place, until the day dawns and the morning star rises in your hearts. 20 Above all, you must understand that no prophecy of Scripture came about by the prophet’s own interpretation of things. 21 For prophecy never had its origin in the human will, but prophets, though human, spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.