I would ask you to ponder Matthew 5:28: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
The difference between righteously noticing (and honoring) a woman’s “wow-factor” and unrighteously feeding off of her beauty has to do with the word "to" in Matthew 5:28.
It’s a small word that makes a big difference in the meaning.
Women are designed to be beautiful. And men have a moral duty to be gentlemen, to be in control of themselves and not to set a hungry gaze and attention upon her beauty.
the difference between noticing her as beautiful and lusting after her has to do with intent (as the word “to” implies). It’s likely that a second look to catch a glimpse of a beautiful woman after initially noticing her is often that intentional look “to lust” upon her.
Women are part of life. And there’s a God-given tension that comes with godly restraint just like there’s a certain amount of God-given stress that comes with walking in Godly faith. It’s not always something to escape except when avoiding seduction (Prov 5:3-23). It’s something to honor with knowledge, carefulness, decency, the right amount of concern and proper restraint.
If you step into being a virtuous and honorable man you will have to learn restraint in many areas of life. It’s not something you can altogether escape.
But these are things you must weigh and consider and decide for yourself.
Will you purge your life from the issues of life which call for godly restraint? or will you embrace restraint as part of an ongoing education of how a man is called to mature? It’s your decision to consider moving forward.