What is Gods design for women in the Church and in Life?
Recently I have come across some content that has made me question what I thought I knew about God’s design for women is. I have never considered me a feminist by any means, I think that men and women are equal, but obviously we are not designed the same, by God’s design and so there are differences in things we can do and should do.
I have always felt that if a woman wants to work outside the home, or not have children (without regard to abortion), that she should be able to make those choices. Recently, I watch a video by a well-respected preacher that said women should get married young, have children, and not work outside the home, because the home is where her work is. I understand his points, that is, it because if women work outside the home we would then have to be submissive to men who are not our husbands, and that raising families is important to God’s design for humans, but nonetheless I have concerns. He also seemed to be saying (and I could be way off on this) that women are not to speak in church, and If we have questions to direct them to our husbands. That we are not to be teachers, or preachers and lead men. (I understand the preaching part) I do see the point in these things, I guess they are just a shock to me. It makes me question why I am here, if I am not allowed to lead others to God, or do anything but have children?
Some background on me, I served in the military for 6 years, so I am more of a “tom boy” and always have been. I have 3 children, one of whom has passed away. I have recently been considering re-joining the military or going back to school to become an art therapist to help people. I love my children dearly, but I don’t know that I want to be raising children forever, I’m not sure that I want to have any more, especially considering how the the loss of my daughter has affected me. I also lead a small group of people, men included in weekly devotionals on Facebook, and have a side personal ministry giving stained glass pieces to people who have had babies pass away, but that includes men as well.
I guess what I want to know is, do I need to give up these things because I am not supposed to minister to men? Should I stop the Facebook group? And, Biblically speaking, am I allowed to work outside the home, or is my purpose in life to just have babies? (Not that I have anything wrong with people who only want to have kids, it is just not necessarily for me.) I have been so down since hearing that my “job is to stay at home and have kids.” I wanted so much more for my life. I wanted to help people! Now, I feel like I need to be resigned to my home, and my kids, and give up on my dreams.
Thank you for your help!