@OJMCKEE Hi Olivia I actually think you worded that really well. The issue of trying to relate to someone for the sake of your friendship with them is important, because it makes us ensure they are also trying to relate to us. A healthy friendship is a two-sided thing and I think what you are really going to be testing is whether she can reciprocate the friendship now that you’ve changed. I just have a couple of personal examples that I hope might help as you consider this prayerfully.
I spent years living in a worldly way, and had many friends sharing it with me. When I came back to God, one of the friendships died very quickly. I tried to maintain the friendship, but clearly my friend lost interest now that I wasn’t going out drinking and partying like I had done previously. That is an example of how one friendship ended. There was no deep hurt for either of us, I think because the friendship was founded on superficial things.
I have another friend who I’ve actually grown closer to. She is an atheist but since I’ve come back to God, i have actually been able to relate to her more, and vice versa. I believe this is because I have a deep conviction that drives my life, whereas, previously I was like a ship tossed to and fro on the waves (Ephesians 4:14) and she couldn’t respect that in me. We now have incredibly meaningful conversations based on a mutual and equal friendship and respect, despite the fact we hold opposing beliefs.
I can see that you want to put Christ first, and that is the best starting place. Keep giving this to Him as you proceed. Your friendship with her will either be strengthened through this, or it may dwindle. God has you secure, whatever the outcome. And may I suggest you pray for some more friends who share your love for Christ? I had to pray for this and God was so gracious in providing the right people to surround me at the right time.
I’ll be praying for you, let us know how it goes .