@Michele_Cameron Praying for wisdom in your situation Well, I think the first thing to understand and perhaps explain to your son if he is not already aware is that there are different levels of doctrine. This particular doctrine is a conviction or opinion; not an absolute, so sincere Christians can disagree.
Assuming your son truly wants to follow Jesus but feels convicted that women should not preach, I might recommend prayerfully considering finding a Church that respects and honors women, but does not offend your son’s conscience in this matter. This would be a case of the weaker brother (1 Cor 8).
Now, if your son is simply using this quibble to duck out of Church, then I think the issue is a bit different, but from what you’ve said I’m hearing that your son is sincere. I wouldn’t want a secondary issue to keep him from growing in Christ and I think it is important to respect his conscience if after explaining the issue he still holds this view.
You might consider having him read a book by Craig Keener: “Paul, Women, and Wives” if he is interested in studying further.
1 Cor 8:9-13 - Be careful, however, that the exercise of your rights does not become a stumbling block to the weak. 10 For if someone with a weak conscience sees you, with all your knowledge, eating in an idol’s temple, won’t that person be emboldened to eat what is sacrificed to idols? 11 So this weak brother or sister, for whom Christ died, is destroyed by your knowledge. 12 When you sin against them in this way and wound their weak conscience, you sin against Christ. 13 Therefore, if what I eat causes my brother or sister to fall into sin, I will never eat meat again, so that I will not cause them to fall.
Levels of Doctrine
The below article offers a fuller explanation of levels of doctrine and gives a helpful summary list of 4 levels of doctrine.
absolutes define the core beliefs of the Christian faith;
convictions , while not core beliefs, may have significant impact on the health and effectiveness of the church;
opinions are less-clear issues that generally are not worth dividing over; and
questions are currently unsettled issues.
Where an issue falls within these categories should be determined by weighing the cumulative force of at least seven considerations:
- biblical clarity;
- relevance to the character of God;
- relevance to the essence of the gospel;
- biblical frequency and significance (how often in Scripture it is taught, and what weight Scripture places upon it);
- effect on other doctrines;
- consensus among Christians (past and present); and
- effect on personal and church life.