@ChristinaLinzey: You have made an excellent point. I think there are some fine lines when distinguishing between clergy, bishops, shepherds (pastors), and deacons.
I agree with you in regard to the shepherd (Eph. 4:11) of the church. Biblehub.com makes this definition about shepherds.
**"Metaphorically, the presiding officer, manager, director, of any assembly: so of Christ the Head of the church, John 10:16; 1 Peter 2:25; Hebrews 13:20 (of the Jewish Messiah, Ezekiel 34:23); of the overseers of the Christian assemblies (A. V. pastors), [Ephesians 4:11]
"Usage: a shepherd; hence met: of the feeder, protector, and ruler of a flock of men."
" 4166 poimḗn – properly, a shepherd (“pastor” in Latin ); (figuratively) someone who the Lord raises up to care for the total well-being of His flock (the people of the Lord)."
1Timothy 3:1 refers to “overseers” or “bishops”. This position is derived from a feminine noun because it involves care and nurturing and visitation.
1984 episkopḗ (a feminine noun, derived from /e(https://biblehub.com/greekhub/1909.htm) pí , " on , appropriately fitting," which intensifies 4648 /skopéō , “look intently”) – properly, oversight that naturally goes on to provide the care and attention appropriate to the " personal visitation ."
" From episkeptomai; inspection (for relief); by implication, superintendence; specially, the Christian “episcopate” – the office of a “bishop”, bishoprick, visitation."
In terminology today, especially in the liturgical denominations, a bishop is not the pastor. However, because of the nature of the early churches, bishops were most likely serving as traveling pastors.
In regard to deacons, 1 Tim 3:8-10 also is speaking of men. However, when referring to “their wives”,(1 Tim 3:11) other translations of the manuscripts did not refer to them as “their wives”, but as “deaconesses” who needed to possess the same qualities as a deacon.
In my initial response, I concluded that if a person felt a calling into whatever service gift of apostle, teacher, prophet, etc., and the church is being edified by the glorification of Christ, I wouldn’t judge the veracity of his or her calling.
Having said that, I will add a personal opinion: I believe a person’s success in being called to be a pastor(shepherd) can be seen in the fruit of his/her labor. I have seen pastors fail miserably, and that is between them and the Lord. But, I’ve also seen many successful pastors. It is not by the size of their congregation that evidence is seen, but by the quality with which they pastor their flock.
In my experience, I have known women clergy who have not had the responsibility of shepherding a flock but have been successful in their particular ministry. But I have only known men who have been shepherds. My personal view is that I believe men are called to shepherd the flock. If the flock includes women with teaching gifts, clergy ordination and responsibilities, etc., I believe men can learn from them and I won’t judge their calling.